YOUR PAIN IS MY HAPPINESS.

                 It is not uncommon to enjoy a joke and also not a rare sight to have people who are offended by it. Our racial diversity, knowledge, educational background, age, beliefs usually take the blame for our insensitivity but this is sometimes a diversion to obfuscate our wrongdoings or just the bitter truth. Can body-shaming ,cyber bullying, racial discrimination, gender oppression and other situations that cause us grief be totally eradicated? The answer leans more to "NO".
                  Watching others suffer and making others feel miserable seem to take away some of our pain.  We use people's pain and shame as point of reference for self-righteousness, why we should be grateful and optimistic about life.  We see no wrong in using offensive words on people whose wrongdoings has been exposed even when we commit atrocities in hidden or open.
                 Using people's pain, humiliation and anguish as a yardstick for our emotional intelligence, self-development may seem like a cruel thing but in the end it is a defence mechanism to urge us to keep living. When we stop using people's dilemma to help us move on from our pain and disappointments, we may gradually lose the drive to keep moving forward.
                  People's pain may not necessarily be a yardstick to rate all set of achievement for us, it may be the one that open our eyes to our dreams and aspirations. When we identify a societal problem, vice and need, it may spur us on to attempt to provide solutions to the problem the society is entangled in. People's insecurities may make us identify our role to play in eradicating the problem and thus aspirations are born and fueled by desire to alleviate the suffering of humanity and bring peace.
                   Drawing the line between mockery and problem solving is the slippery path most people lose themselves to. Whatever situation we find ourselves in, we should endeavour not to infringe on the rights of others, we should not be too uptight and stiff in our actions. Flexibility and compromise may be the prerequisite to the stability we seek. Being considerate and kind to others is certainly an attribute we all need to attain.
                   What may seem like mockery to us may actually be the sensitisation we need to work on ourselves but our change-resistant minds may be too biased to see it. We get agitated about words, actions that even earn us sympathisers who share our views, but in the end we are the ones who need to open our minds and be more open to new ideas, innovations and inventions if we are to develop ourselves, attain success and emotional intelligence.
                    Little act of kindness in words and actions may seem like an alluring idea but it is never enough. Societal development and self development may only be achieved through controversial decisions. Loving your body and personality is a beautiful thing but quickly turns sour when it impedes with our health in form of obesity, bigotry and undernourishment . Culture may seem like a beautiful thing until it harness emotional instability, health emergencies and kill dreams from practices such as female genital mutilation, child marriages and male child preference.  In situations like this jokes and harsh criticism may seem like a witch-hunt but in the end, it is the awakening we need even if some people feed off the chaos the situation brings for material gain when people try to show us our erroneous and destructive beliefs.
                   Our fears sometimes blinds us from facts and make us victimise people just because we have people who support us. Our fearful heart pushes us beyond reasoning till we don't realise that we have that we have become cruel oppressors while trying to liberate people forcefully from we perceive as bondage. The fact that change is inevitable should be a guide for our actions . Forcing people into accepting our ideas and innovations can be disastrous but showing people the benefit of our ideas and innovations which has been tailored to suit their geographical topography and lifestyle needs may seem like a better plan.
                     Learning to channel our thoughts politely is very essential. The media is an important tool in attaining peace if controlled by the right people. Insecurities can never vanish but can be placated so it is important we know how to channel our ideas and actions without infringement on the rights of others.
                      The world is a connected place so it is important we learn good communication and cohabitation skills if we are to achieve our dreams and achieve any societal development.

THE DRIVE.

                   Success and achievements often come with questions, opposition and a lot of reaction from people around us. Whether we desire immense wealth and happiness or not, it is not uncommon for people to have set standards of achievements they perceive to be signs of living a good life. Our needs are often influenced by our geographical region, educational system, culture, values and personal goals. In the end all our motivation is centered around money and it's equivalent because we need it to pay for our development, survival and to achieve our dreams.
                Money being the source of our motivation is very debatable but can't be ignored because we truly need it and it's equivalent to build our shelter, buy clothes ,attend schools, feed, acquire gadgets and other things we value for our survival. The debatable part comes when we realise that adaptation and our survival instincts is what influence our actions. We may desire comfort, luxury, good health and other things but getting this things may be impossible without the drive to adapt to situations around us and lack of zeal to live.
                Trying to figure out if money or the desire to live is our motivation is very controversial and makes us dizzy with confusion if we continue to dwell on it. The cruel and delinquent ones among us try to live life trying to make things work out for them by damning the consequence while the law abiding and humane ones among us try to live according to societal laws to acquire more material things to make living standards better.
                 Some people's existence is centered around trying to make life better for others through their innovation, inventions and ideas which may be driven by desire for wealth or service to humanity. People often feel a strong motivation within to express their true selves and desire which often leads to their breakthrough in whatever field they have chosen but this often comes with a price. No matter how benevolent a person is, resources will still be required to replicate the trend, invention, innovation and and to implement an idea a person has come up with.
                    Good and evil thrive today because there are both human and material resources for them to use in replicating their ideas, inventions and innovations. The human mind is comes after all while some seek to survive while adapting to the rules of humanity and kindness, others seek to survive and dominate everything even if it means watching the world burn.
                  What distinguishes our drive is our consideration for others in attaining what we want. The world is in disarray because our survival instincts has been mutated by our selfish desire to be on top of the success chain.
                      When we are born, our families learn to love us and guide us throughout growth years based on their ideas, values and principles. This love may often not manifest when our family find our existence a threat to their survival, or a threat to achieving their ambitions. Whether or not we receive the attention, love and material support we need from our family and close allies, we would need to attain our unique adaptation and communication skill to interact with others.
                    Whatever our dreams , goals and aspirations may be, we still need others who see things in  similar and different perspective as us to achieve whatever good or evil we desire. We will get closer to achieving world peace and development when we let our drive become fueled by desire survive together since our diversity is what makes us unique and brings about the innovations, inventions and success we seek.