RESOLUTIONS.

       Everyone is struggling with their "inner self" on things, situations and attitude they want to change to become better but it is the timing and commitment to these resolutions that determines the outcome.
       Do we really need to wait till we face a tragic situation before we make up our mind to change our lifestyle and attitude? Do we have to wait till our birthdays or a new year before deciding on changes we need to make about ourselves? Do we really work towards achieving this resolutions we make? The answer is YES and NO depending on who we are.

CULTURAL JUSTIFICATION.

        We would say culture is the way of life of a group of people living in the same geographical region and even  with this definition, we still have periodical conflicts on what is culturally acceptable and what is not.
   Cultural acceptance on different topics  has brought up many disputes on what should be modified and what should be annihilated out of the culture because of the changes in time and interest of our people.

PROMISCUOUS MINDS

       Over the years, there has been occasional argument on why musicians, actors and models have been idolised as sex icons owing to their beauty, explicit dressing/entertainment style and regular people are called "whores" when their actions are only similar to this sex icons.
     We shamelessly talk about what physical attributes we find "sexually appealing" in our stars and even wishing to be like them/being romantically linked with a person with their features.

VANITY

         We all strive to live comfortably with all we desire within our grasp. We want to be able to afford some basic things/luxury as we please without having to lend money, yet we call those who openly tell us about their desire for luxury "vain". What makes us different from them? Is it because they are brave enough to say their dreams openly? Or is it because they prioritize getting luxuries over their career and happiness? Or is it because they go extreme in their actions to get it?

SELFISH

      Most of us will be in support of viewing "selfishness" as a turn off in character and would prefer a caring/selfless person. The truth is we are all guilty of this "selfishness" but the intensity of this trait varies in individuals.
     Selfishness could be a good or bad trait depending on the situation we find ourselves in. This brings us to the question that what is the limit of selfishness?

SANITY

        The ability to decide between what is right and wrong is one of the characteristics that defines our sanity. The ability to meet up with the developmental milestones is another criteria for rating mental capacity.
     For a person to be accepted as part of the society, you must be able to conform to the rules of the society. When a person starts going against the rules of a society, he is seen as a criminal, delinquent, unpatriotic depending on his actions .

MIND OF A FIGHTER

 
     Depending on our personality, when we get upset and angry, we seem to lose sense of reasoning. All our focus are drawn towards seeking atonement from our offender. We want to scream out how we feel about what we have experienced. We want to seek support of people around us by telling them about what we experienced.
     How far can our rage, discontentment, unhappiness and inferiority complex take us? Does it make us despise those that are linked to our emotional conflict? Do we let this dark emotion run loose in us till they control us and make us do despicable acts of physical violence, property and life damage?

CHAOS CONTROL.

     
       Lots of insurgencies, political power tussles, tribal wars and social unrest happening everywhere. Everyone wants to be in power, everyone wants their voice to be heard, everyone wants to fight for a cause and win but no one wants to consider the effect of the agitation they create on the people around them.
       Before you decide to plead a cause, there need to be a thorough analysis of the significance and effects of this idea both positive & negative without bias.
     Some people go into advocacy just for the popularity and social connections it will earn them and not necessarily because they want to protect and help generate support for whom or what they are advocating for.

WORD ANALYSIS

         The voice is a powerful tool of change and destruction of a nation. This should explain why we would depend on the media for updates.
     Every day we face the incidence of”you should not say this”, “you should not say that” because words have psychological power. We listen to what people say and whether we admit it or not, it affects our mood and thinking.

TRAPPED SOUL

      You ever wondered why you feel like you are lost ,even when you are aware of your surroundings but you doing something you aren't comfortable and happy about? Do you ever wonder why you feel like you're chained to a spot with no chances of escape from the situation ,even when there are no physical restraints on you? The answers to this question are numerous, it depends on the genesis of the situation.

HASTEN UP

        Everyone is striving to have things happen for them at a speedy rate. We want items delivered quickly, become successful at a young age, and virtually desire good things happen to us soonest.
        We have to "make may hay while the sun shines" and still have to be patient because "Rome wasn't built in a day". These 2 conflicting principles often makes people indecisive and influence some wrong decisions made.

HOPE

     When everything seems impossible to achieve and I still feel a sense of optimism, that  is what I call HOPE.   The levels at which we hope for things vary depending on our values,experiences and beliefs .
      Some will claim all is lost but on thorough scrutiny, we will realise they have a little desire for a miracle to occur and change the situation.

ADULT HAVOC

      Everyone is striving to "take charge" of their lives by manipulating the factors influencing our life choices.
      When do we become an adult? Is question that usually ends with an unsatisfactory answer. Some will argue that to become an adult, you will need to attain a certain age and others will argue that it is by the character and behavior exhibited and not the age ,but i believe both ideas have to be combined to define an adult.

KILL THE SPIRIT

        What does it take to make you unhappy? What does it take to make you angry? What does it take to crush your motivation? Is it when your weaknesses are being highlighted? Is it when you feel you haven't achieved desired results? Or when you crave something and you don't get it?

SETTING STANDARDS

           People are making up standards and principles for themselves to live by and guide them in life activities which have been rewarding  and simultaneously yielded futile results for others.
        We make up standards and principles on how to talk, dress, people to associate with, places to be seen and actions taken because we all need a guide to curb our human excesses.
       In following standards, we sometimes become obnoxious racists and sexists as we believe only people of certain qualities fall into our standard of circle of friends. We are not to  be blamed sometimes, we may have experienced an emotionally or physically traumatizing ordeal with people "out of our league" and we forget that every individual is a unique being regardless of their race, nationality and religion.
        Setting boundaries can be beneficial to us because it sometimes prevent us from engaging in things and people who could destabilise our emotional balance negatively and we experience anger, pain, betrayal and sadness which may prevent us from activities that we regret involving in afterwards.
          Occasionally, we would need to lower our guards momentarily to learn new things and gain experience from other people from diverse backgrounds.
 Change after all is constant in life and its better we give space for it to take its course positively on us or we would come to realise when it's too late the effect of environmental changes on us as we become outdated like a lost arifact.
         When you know a person's principles you should learn to respect them if it doesn't clash with our happiness and standard. Lower and increase your standard as required by life changes and environment, but let's not compromise our happiness and decision and decision we need to make just to please others.
        The choice is left to us to decide when standards and principles become a hindrance to our development and when it is the solution to our dilemma through periodic evaluations.

STEAL ME A BODY

       The issue of dissatisfaction about body proportion is not news to us anymore. There is one part of our body we do not feel secure about and wish was created in another way ranging from yearning to be taller, having a slimmer body, wider hips, fuller lips and a different hairline.
        Everyone has a distinct body feature we secretly admire and wished we possesed and this leads us to go through different therapies, activities to achieve that desired body feature or look which could be positive or negative to our health and self esteem.
        An obese person determined to achieve a slimmer body figure and body weight acceptable according to the standard of body mass index proportion is on the positive side because the weight loss helps to reduce incidence of non communicable diseases associated with obesity.
       Another person's interest may be to develop a bigger body physique and would go extreme by using steroids which in turn may lower his immunity after prolonged use.
       We deliberately forget that every individual is unque in body structure even though our functions are similar, we have varying height and different body  muscle proportions depending on various like nutrition, hereditary  and even environmental factors. In persuit for a perfect body shape we take enhancement products and may endure surgeries to "correct" our body parts and sometimes these enhancers could have adverse effects on other body parts latently.
      With this individual uniqueness in our minds why don't we strive to maintain our body functioning in good health. We could wear beautiful clothes and accessories that could complement our body shape and size. We should not see any part of our body as unattractive or repulsive, we should accept our structural body flaws and follow healthy lifestyle if it needs modification because what you view as a deformity may be the beauty essence another person seeks.
       Just like beauty, the more we seek to change our perceived flaws, the more  we keep losing our true beautiful self because the satisfaction we gain from artificial sources are only temporary till we see someone else with a definition of the perfection we seek to achieve.
      True satisfaction of our body can only be gotten from within, we should  appreciate what we have with an optimistic view about it. The more we appreciate ourselves for whom we are as a unique being, the happier we become, the more we condemn our abilities and traits , the more unhappy we become.This might result in us involving ourselves in extreme alternatives that brings no joy.
     The body is after all a vessel to accommodate our soul, beautify your soul and maintain the body vessel well.

MEDIA APOCALYPSE

 Over the years, the views on media has evolved owing to the fact that it has damaged and simultaneously saved people,economy and nations.
     The effect media has on people is determined by those who control it and those who have access to it. We all can attest to having our own experiences with  the power of the media whether it is the television, tabloids, blogs, flyers, posters, radios.
      Through different means everyday we seek knowledge of things happening around us and even far from us to enable us plan choices to make and rate our sense of security.
      The media can be a useful tool in fighting for the helpless , advocating for  change,highlighting the trials and development of people,spreading information about health promotion  if it is being handled by people who source for genuine  information and potray them truthfully without bias to their feelings, values and beliefs.
      Media coverage has been manipulated by by power thirsty savages who obscure the truth from people and make up false scenarios  with repeated display  of this baseless rumors they have started and it is said that repetition aids learning. The more we repeat an action , the more skilled we become in the area of action. People become pawns in the chessboard of the people in power and fall victim to evil agenda and messages being spawn out by the media channel they use because they are gullible enough to believe everything they see and hear.
      The way we view and understand things vary and sometimes when we can't comprehend things we turn to the next person beside us for help in translating the message being passed. If we get the wrong translations, ignorance continues to grow  like a malignant tumor with no one to cure it.
     In whatever experience and situation we find ourselves in , we should learn  to analyse things deeply before drawing out conclusions. We need to realise that we see things in different views and not everyone sees peace as  an element of  life.
   People would go to any extent to control people for their own socioeconomic gain. This struggle of power and dominance has eaten deep into all sectors and various aspects of our lives, companies sabotaging plans of rival companies through malicious rumors , schools, religious bodies and other social institutions including marriage are testifying to falsehood just to gain sympathy, interest and contributions of sincere people. Is the media our friend or enemy or are we the cause of these misinterpretations?
       Whenever we hear a news  update, let's all take time to analyse it, investigate the truth without  bias and help to spread the truth and condemn any  fabricated story being circulated.
      If we all claim it is not our business then we should  be ready to watch someone close to us fall into the bottomless pit of media misguidance that only leads to rising conflicts fueled by ignorance.
      The moment we start seeking out the truth and not entirely believing all we hear everytime we will become one step ahead into stabilising the damage caused by misguided media news, misconceptions will reduce,inter-ethnic bonds will increase and overall world peace can be attained.

FORGIVE

       The ability to forgive people has become a virtue worth the finest of jewels and valuables because it has become a scarce trait to find in people.
     To forgive a person, you have to let go of all emotions of grief,anguish,anger a person has caused you by their actions. You have to be able to relate on the same emotional level you will relate with someone who has done you no harm or caused you no grief.
    When someone err us, we feel betrayed, hurt,unhappy and even indifferent depending on our relationship with the person and subconsciously the action causing this feeling marks a part of our soul like a "painful scar".
    Some people may patiently wait for an opportunity to get " even" and seek revenge against the person that hurt our emotions because we want them to feel the same way we felt when they hurt us but is it all worth it? Even when we get our revenge on this person does it eliminate the fact that we have been hurt? The answer is NO.
    While some people undergo the feeling of unhappiness,betrayal felt from the actions of the person who hurt us with no intention of payback and when we closely look at this we realise that we become emotionally stronger after our ordeal because we learn to control and channel our emotions better and become psychologically stable and happier since our emotions won't be in conflict on how to balanced from satiety in hurting another person.
     If everyone starts plotting on how to seek revenge against people that hurt us  we all will eventually become emotionally unstable which affects our overall  productivity since we may not put in our full concentration and efforts.
     If everyone learns to ignore the emotional trauma we get from actions of people around us, the world will become a happier place since there will be reduced incidence of conflicts caused by retaliations.
      If we should treat people the way we want to be treated, talked to and portrayed, things would gradually become better as there will be reduced incidence of sociocultural conflicts, wars and insurgencies we are experiencing.
   

EBRIETY OF ISOLATION

   What does freedom mean to you? Is it getting a few hours to do things you always never had the time to do? Or having that solitude to meditate and strategize on how to get closer to achieving your ambitions.
     When we need to make an important decision or whenever we are seething with rage , we typically seek to be left alonewith no interference or attention from anyone.
     No one likes to be segregated away from people, we all crave a sense of belonging and love from those we value but sometimes being isolated is what we need to give us that "costly gift of time " to meditate about our past decisions, current decisions and future decisions to make.
      The feeling of loneliness evokes out unadulterated depths of our feelings and this could be dangerous if we haven't learnt how to channel our emotions into doing and choosing what is right.
      Whenever you feel that pang of loneliness, embrace all the emotions you feel, distinguish them, think about the aftermath of the decisions you will make if you succumb to the emotions you feel.
     People who like to isolate themselves from the society or people around them  are seen as formidable creatures of doom because no one can fully understand how they feel towards life concepts. There have been incidence of these isolated people commiting despicable acts of felony, murder, and other acts of social vices.
     All these can be traced to the fact that they have enough time to lallywag in the endless labyrinth of their emotions without people to guide them or lambaste any social vice they have started exhibiting.
     Isolation can equally be rewarding if we can analyse our actions, ideas and choices carefully without bias. We should use the solitude we get to strategize plans for steps we want to take,giving a target of when we desire to achieve results and success gained after this meditations usually gives a sense of satisfaction.
     As alluring as solitude may seem , we have to realise that sometimes we need human interference in our decisions and personal lives because sometimes there are people who have gone through the same phase of life we are currently tangled in and their strategy them with success  may give us that needed hint on the right decision to make.
     We need to learn to balance when to withdraw for evaluation of our actions, strategizing a new plan and when  to involve people in conversations and  experiences.
      If we gain this skill of emotional balance only then can we avoid being lost  in our self created labyrinth of emotional conflict called SOLITUDE.
   

BEAUTY WAR.

      Beauty they say is in the eyes of the beholder but this saying has rapidly changed to "beauty is from within".
    Our idea of beauty vary due to our experiences,values,environment and even after much arguments we still come to the conclusion we notice the outer beauty before thinking about the beauty of the soul in relation to kindness and virtues of life.
    The crave for physical beauty have turned humans into mind-controlled creatures. We want to try out every beauty product we hear about and see forgetting that we differ in physique and what suits us may differ.
     Sometimes, beauty product may truly enhance how attractive people see us and some people may find it repulsive and this goes a long way to sway towards the dispute that perception of beauty varies.
    The important ingredient about beauty enhancement is " how you feel about yourself" because the more you still feel repulsed about yourself, the more you are willing to pursue that illusion of the perfect  look even to the detriment of your health.
   Have you noticed how beautiful you turn out to look to yourself whenever you are in a good mood, have done good deed or when you assume an enthusiastic state of mind.
    People complement beauty based on what matches the standard they have set for it. The most important of all is beautifying your mind and soul because after getting all the complements about your beauty all day long, there will come a time when you have to strip off the farcade of make-up if applied and then you have to view yourself in its real and natural state.
  Plastic and silicon enhancement may look tempting to try out but let's not forget that even if you reconstruct your whole body with cosmetic surgery products we can never gain satisfaction from it because the more you meet more people with varying physical features, the more you will have to appreciate and classify some as more beautiful.
      To  beautify your soul and radiate this beauty to your physical appearance you, you have to first appreciate yourself as a beautiful being, you have to accept that life concept including beauty  varies and overall appreciate the diversity in individuals.
    You should be involved in acts of kindness to people around you because the satisfaction gotten from being a source of joy to another person helps brighten up the mood and improve the perception about yourself
      Avoid social vices and things that don't go with principles you have set up for yourself, Involving in cruelty ,vices exudes an aura on ugliness and repulsion that make people see the person involved as unattractive which obfuscate the physical beauty the person posseses.
    To end this war of beauty that yields disfigured, uncontended beauties, let's focus on beautifying our soul that obviates the physical beauty of people