ALONE OR NOT?

                  At the end, we will always be alone even when surrounded by a thousand loved ones but this is a feat we obfuscate and have difficulty accepting. Even when we are born our family show us love,care for our needs but in the end it is left for us and our body to utilise all that it gets in its functioning.
                    Humans are gregarious beings but the extend to which we socialise and build relationships depends on our experiences, personality and environment. We all have a person or more whom we hold dear and may entrust our affairs to.
                   Our family will show us love, support and care depending on the relationship we have developed. Our friends will defend our honor, swear their loyalty to us and even try to help us overcome our deficit. All these display of care and love have made us believe the truthful lie that we are not alone.
                    From conception to the time of death we will always be alone and accountable for our deeds. Our loved ones learn to love us and care for us because of that which binds us together :friendship, humanity and family. As we grow older, we need people to associate with, to talk to, connect with on every sphere of life hence we start a symbiotic  sometimes parasitic relationship with the ones we call friends.
               

EGOCENTRIC VIOLENCE.

               Violence has manifested itself in various forms with different  people around us and the disturbing thing is that it is on the increase and has no gender, race or age limitations. Rape, paedophilia, Child Abuse, physical assault, domestic violence are just few robes violence masquerades itself with.
                 Societal laws, religious doctrine, cultural values all forbids violence in any form yet we still find people indulged in it. The baffling part of the story is that whatever angle we may look at it, all violence originates from a scar or trauma to our ego. When we feel a need to claim our superiority, feel a need to defend our wounded pride, feel helpless about a situation,  we let out lethal words or direct our physical strength against people, things whom may or may not have hurt us.
                   Violence is a wildfire that burns beyond the expectations of that whom ignited the fire.  Once we reach that peak of emotional turmoil and cross the line of reasoning, we seek ways to express our frustrations, anger, this is when harsh words, physical assault may be an option to some. Some of us feel it is the only way out voice will be heard, our respect can be heard.
                   Using violence, oppressions, and verbal assault may seem like the best option and we never know how much damage we have caused until the consequences of our actions manifest upon the people affected by our words, acts and behavior.
               When viewed from another context which is the law, sometimes violence have to be used in human interaction to ensure compliance to laws as written in our constitution. Death sentence, hard labor, chemical sterilization are violent but legal ways to bring order and balance to the society.  When this happens we overlook it because we realise that it is a means of protecting humanity and ensuring peace.
             

CELEBRATIONS.

                When we experience that brisk feeling of selfaccomplishment and happiness, we actively or subconsciously seek ways to express them and that is what we call celebration. People erroneously believe to celebrate you have to spend a lot of time, resources and money frolicking around and gloating about your achievements but most times it may be less or beyond that.
                   Celebration may just be that genuine smile, laughter and joy that you give and feel when you achieve your goals.
                    Celebration might be receiving verbal praises & recommendations as well as singing and dancing.
                  Celebration may be that word of gratitude you say to your creator and that act of charity you indulge in to help those that need what you have in excess or limitations.
                  The way we celebrate our success, achievements and positive state of mind and feelings depends on our values, beliefs and principles about life hence why some express it in organising parties while some reflect on it or just share the positive news with family, friends and loved ones to hear their views, encouragement, delight then move on.
                  The best kind of celebration has to be when you acknowledge other people's success, listen to the story behind their sense of fulfillment. This act gives you motivation, makes you believe more in yourself and broadens your perspective on ways to restructure your own goal-oriented plans.
                  When things seem difficult or favorable, let us always take a moment to reevaluate ourselves and appreciate our efforts and we will gradually achieve that sense of fulfillment we seek.

I HAVE FOUND MY PEACE.

              What does peace mean to you? Is it limited to having no worries and difficulty to tackle?
           I have found my peace in the gentle wind that blows down south.
           I have found my peace in the tide,waves,color and smell of the sea.
           I have found my peace in the beautiful green and wildlife around me that makes up nature.
           I have found my peace in the soothing smell of rain hitting sand.
           I have found my peace in hearing about innovations and inventions to make the world a better place.
          I have found my peace in seeing the helpless receiving relief, aids and support to thrive.
          I have found my peace in seeing smile on people's faces and hearing their story of gratitude.
          I have found my peace in seeing the oppressed getting justice and being treated with love and dignity.
          I have found my peace in being alive and healthy to strive to be better.
          I have found my peace in being grateful and content with the little I have.
          I have found my peace in the gentle words of encouragement, love and peace I receive and I have shared.
         I have found my peace realising our diversity is a gift to more innovations from diverse ideas shared.
         I have found my peace in having a special connection with my creator and God.
         I have found my peace in rising above my failures and disappointments.
         I have found my peace in family bonded by blood, kindness,love and loyalty.
         I have found my peace in seeking out greatness for those I care about.
         I have found my peace achieving my goals, growing emotionally and psychologically.
         I have found my peace when the ones I care about are happy and achieve their goals.
                   Find out what peace means to you today and enjoy a fulfilled life.

Daily Gratitude

                   Whether it is morning, afternoon or night, we have a period of the day that we mentally assess our achievements of the day. We compare our day's achievements against the goals we set and estimation we made.
                  Sometimes the whole universe seem to be in our favor, with everything working out well as if we orchestrated it all. Other timeout may seem that the world has been given thescript of our lives and must struggle for the ways to ruin all our plans. Whatever happens during the day, we have to remain content with the knowledge that we survived the day and may have another day.
                  We should realise that being alive is a blessing we should be grateful for. Only when we are alive do we have the chance to struggle to achieve our dreams.
                  Being alive is enough consolation whenever you are feeling unhappy, unfufilled. Rest when you can while planning more effective ways to achieve our goals.
       

SOMETIMES GIVE UP?

               "Never give up" is not a new mantra to us, rather it has become an integral part of motivation and daily activities for us. The confusing truth is that giving up is also what makes us better.
               "Giving up " in this context refers to accepting our weaknesses, realising we need to restrategise our plans, reevaluate our actions and set goals for ourselves,  which can only be done when we accept that we have failed and we need to work harder.
               Never giving up is when we persevere with challenges we face, using our goals as a driving force to achieve success.
             The reason we will still vehemently refute the concept that we "give up" is because we don't even have time to evaluate ourselves and achievements. We mindlessly chase our goals forgetting that the results of our evaluation is the true determinant of our achievements.
   

FIRST DECEPTION LASTS LONGER.

                   They say first impressions lasts longer but is that always the situation? Should we limit all our judgement and association with a person on the first contact we had with them? Do people still seem the same as the first time we met them?
                 It is not usually enough to judge people by the circumstances and occurrences of our first encounter. Most people carefully plan out their actions, attitude, speech, dressings and even seek out knowledge on the person of intended interest, so they will be able to effect an alteration in their behaviors and actions.  All these pre-meeting activities may be labelled as fraud since the behavior are not as a result of natural response to situation, rather they are pre-planned just for the pleasure of the intended human.
                  It is sometimes just apt to judge the skill, potential, character and entire persona of a person from just the first meeting. The concept that every human is a unique being with unique characteristics goes a long way to tell us that no matter the situation we find ourselves in,  a fragment of our true selves surface.