BLESSINGS

  

Oh lord bless me, Oh lord bless my family!!Oh lord bless my endeavours !! is a “ mantra” everyone is familiar with and can’t just desist from chanting always.

Whether it is a dream car,house,clothes,shoes,bags,money,good health, we all crave something so badly that when we get it we see it as a blessing and sometimes we don’t desire them but it happens and we feel blessed.

We need blessings continuously in our lives regardless of the type of "spiritualism path" or faith we believe in.

We believe blessings are the key to our success and happiness and would give anything for these. Some have a routine of kindness they do to help the less privileged in the society in anticipation of God blessing them for it in ten folds of what they have given out.

Some of us believe blessings isn’t equally shared to those who need it because those who have what we perceive to be blessings don’t make use of it well or don’t help people with it or don’t even value it at all yet we that have good plans for it don’t get it so when we eventually get “our blessings” we tell everyone who care to listen about the miraculous way we received our blessings until we need another one

But the obscured fact still remain that the grace and ability to ask for a blessing is even a blessing itself because some of us don’t even have the opportunity to request for a blessing  since they may be too burdened with life trivialities  to even regard anything as a blessing.

We should see our existence as a blessing and live a happy life and not forget to help be a contributor to helping another person get his blessing because we are all blessings to people around us and the earlier everyone of us realize this and work towards blessing people around us with the blessings we have the better becomes for us.

To seek blessings, we have to be pure of heart and be able to testify to being a link to a person’s blessing and stay steadfast to our creator, follow his guidelines and path he wants us to follow and he will bless us when it is right.

Some blessings we seek may not happen for us yet because its time may not be right and if it occurs it may lead to our ruin. Why get a car you wanted if it is going to be the death of you when you attempt to drive it?

Lets learn to appreciate what we have and use it well, do good whenever we get  a chance, pray hard ,work hard and enjoy the moment because these are the pathways to success and not forget to thank our creator for the received blessings and whoever the link to the blessing is.

RIVER OF TEARS

           If I ask you to cry for me your next response will be “why?” or if I ask you if you ever wish to have a cause to cry your answer may be a non-hesitant NO which may be amusing to me because we cry every time with tears that may be shed out or held within ourselves.

          We see tears as a sign of weakness,an evidence of sorrow or tragedy yet when unexpected joy and success comes we cry without planning for it. Does that mean we are unhappy?

I see tears as T-tiny, E- Emotions,A- Accompanying,R- Results from decisions.

And this is because  it is awakened in deep situations involving us. When we succeed without expecting it we cry,when we lose hope we cry,when we survive a perceived bad omen we cry,when we get too happy we cry,when our plans are crushed we cry and the list goes on.

         

FAMILY

                               

Everyone has an individualized meaning to the word “family” which may be from indoctrination, life experiences and societal circumstances a person finds himself.

People feel family should be your parents, siblings and blood related individuals but are we being sincere here? The answer is a big NO.

Those whom we truly see as our families are those who give us support we need whether physical, emotional, moral, financial, education type without criticizing us or making us feel bad about ourselves.

It is of wonder when family members refuse to associate deeply with each other after they gain independence and start up another family with a spouse. This also brings us to another question that do family preference of people change? The answer is subjective to individuals.

An individual may feel family don’t change because they can hold on to people and maintain ties no matter how far apart they are from a person and this may depend on how the family in question treats them and make them feel.

An individual may feel family changes if they are not the type to hold on to old ties or may be a victim of unhappy loose tie with a family member and may therefore shift attention of whom they consider as a part of their small societal unit.

 Facts still remain that no matter how indifferent we try y to be we have different families and are all connected to each other in one way or the other.  In short the whole population of human on this planet is one big family but the real family we may accept are those close to us or share the same goals as us.

With all these do we still think we need families or families change? Because family may stand for 100% ;F-6%,A-1%,M-13%,I-9%,L-12%,Y-25%,T-20%,I-9%,E-5%.

Which all results to 100% of our lives.

Seeing people as a family help make you a better person even if you don’t like them. The moment you start to clear an area of dirt to prevent people you see as family from falling ill you start contributing to world health and health for yourself.

Every action we take towards life affects us and people around us gradually so we have to decide whether family changes or should be limited to our nuclear family.

What does a family mean to you? You have to think deeply on this putting in mind that every individual’s action and attitude has an impact on the equilibrium of the society.

FRIENDSHIP

                                                                FRIENDSHIP.

People say “show me your friend and I will tell you who you are” and I just smile because it is one of the things that make me a critic.

With the little years I have spent on this earth I have come to realize that it is true and untrue also because these days whether we admit it or not we make friends for our personal gain and to gain favor of people.

Putting sentiments aside now and talking with a free mind I would agree that your friends depicts the kind of person you are because most people are weak-minded beneath all the facade of the” strong man” role we play and get influenced in our actions gradually and our mindset changes gradually with us accepting things we generally don’t like before.

My experience with that is I used to think everyone who is still single should not engage in any sexual activity till marriage but with the path I have chosen for a profession and daily experience with people I have realized that you have to consider peoples thought and let go of your bias to have a healthy relationship with people but still hold on to your principles in a polite way without raising a ruckus.

                The only situation where the above adage wouldn’t work is in bigot people who may be uneasy to influence.

                We all need friends for a healthy mind and to cope with life stress, someone to talk to when you are upset but sometimes that person may not necessarily be a friend but yourself and parents. No human can survive on his own because even those who rise up to become successful from hurt should be grateful to those “haters” because they acted the role of “indirect friendship” only that they were bad friends but still remain top contributing factor to his success.

                In my opinion having only good friends sometimes may not help you because we need both.

Good friends show you the way, encourage you, laugh with you and do positive things with you and try to help you fight against things that drop your mood while the bad friends bring you to the balance you need, the make you realize the choice of good & evil ,striving for success to outdo them, setting up standard so as not to be like them or be associated with them.

So, if you don’t have a bad friend or hater you still have to make balance to your lifestyle. If you have too many friends you need to be mindful also. But all these won’t matter if you’re not a good friend yourself, you can’t rely on your thoughts, actions and way of handling situation.

                Therefore you got to do it right, make the right friend and if there are no good ones, use the bad ones as a motivation for your “breakthroughs” and don’t forget to thank both the good & bad ones for making you successful

DECISION MAKING

                                               

People say whatever you do it’s your choice and the decision you make will affect your life. What is my take on this? Well, they are right and wrong at the same time and I am sure you want to know why…fine I will tell you.

                Most times whether we believe it or not we don’t make our own decision it is the world and environmental fate that makes  it for us but being humans that we are, we obfuscate and delude ourselves to think that we made our own decisions ourselves.

                A student reads so hard with the decision made to pass but focuses on some topic more than the others being taught and there is a lazy student who has no mindset about an exam and just flips through her notes, get passed more than the hard worker, people get tempted to wonder if the “hard worker” was just posing to be reading or is he just a blockhead.

In this situation the decision has been made for the hard worker by his tutors, marking scheme and the world at large.

 In my view decision making has to be a 2-way process because people say you have to be optimistic at all times ,don’t forget life is not a bed of roses so to live a fulfilled life you always walk on two paths at the same time. You have to plan for both success and failure to have a stable mind and make your success last longer.

 The fact that people don’t plan for failure as well is one of those things that is a leading cause of frustrated and disrupted lives people live instead of the greatness they are meant for.

                We forget that to have an interesting success story to impact on the world you have to go through hardship with a smile on your face and a back-up plan ready for a spring-back surprise win against odds.

                To make a decision, I will recommend you take a deep breath , forget your worries for a moment and think about at least 3 different approach to the “issue” on ground and combine all 3 strategies into 1 whole plan that would be made in such a way to combat negativity of the “external environment”

                Some will say have a personal timetable ,of course that works but humans are not restricted beings so plans change a lot so why don’t you put these 3 factors into consideration:

        I.            Spiritual wholeness; good relationship with God.

      II.            Directed preparation; reading all related articles to the task, having all required document for the task and necessary actions taken.

    III.            Mindset; have a positive outlook to the result of the task but leave a little percentage at the back of your mind on how to bounce back if failure occurs.

Above all you need to choose a suitable environment with the right people around you so even when you take decisions the environment will be favourable for the decision to succeed with positive guidance and support of people around you.