SETTING STANDARDS

           People are making up standards and principles for themselves to live by and guide them in life activities which have been rewarding  and simultaneously yielded futile results for others.
        We make up standards and principles on how to talk, dress, people to associate with, places to be seen and actions taken because we all need a guide to curb our human excesses.
       In following standards, we sometimes become obnoxious racists and sexists as we believe only people of certain qualities fall into our standard of circle of friends. We are not to  be blamed sometimes, we may have experienced an emotionally or physically traumatizing ordeal with people "out of our league" and we forget that every individual is a unique being regardless of their race, nationality and religion.
        Setting boundaries can be beneficial to us because it sometimes prevent us from engaging in things and people who could destabilise our emotional balance negatively and we experience anger, pain, betrayal and sadness which may prevent us from activities that we regret involving in afterwards.
          Occasionally, we would need to lower our guards momentarily to learn new things and gain experience from other people from diverse backgrounds.
 Change after all is constant in life and its better we give space for it to take its course positively on us or we would come to realise when it's too late the effect of environmental changes on us as we become outdated like a lost arifact.
         When you know a person's principles you should learn to respect them if it doesn't clash with our happiness and standard. Lower and increase your standard as required by life changes and environment, but let's not compromise our happiness and decision and decision we need to make just to please others.
        The choice is left to us to decide when standards and principles become a hindrance to our development and when it is the solution to our dilemma through periodic evaluations.