I HATE COMPARISONS

                I personally hate people comparing me with another person and can argue that most people will feel this way too. We hate to hear “Can’t you see how Mr. Ade is doing?” “Can’t you see how much your friends are earning?”, but when we are asked what our dreams are we say things like I hope to be richer than Mr. A, own a g-wagon before I am 21 years old, have my masters degree before am 25 years old and if we link up this dream with the source, we realize they emanate from what we noticed from someone and admired.

                Whether we like it or not, we compare in everything we do, when we write an exam and the results are out ,after checking our grades we try look at others grades as some use it as a motivation to work harder. This brings us to the point that comparisons can be constructive or degenerative.

                Degenerative in the sense that sometimes we don’t know our limitations and try to aim for things that may be impossible to get until it becomes our undoing. A typical environmental example of this is someone who studied linguistics in university aiming to work in a petrochemical company as a manager which may be difficult but plans to sleep or bribe his/her way through.

Constructive in the sense that we can use peoples success story and path as a challenge for us to work hard, forge on and carve a niche for ourselves.

                To measure our success or failure, we have to compare the outcome of the plan to the resources spent in achieving the status and we may also need to compare our output which may be a determinant for us to measure our success or failure.

                Comparisons give us a sense of value of a thing or people. When we compare what we have to what others have we will be able to determine whether what we have is valuable in the society or not and makes us strive to be up-to-date with societal change.

                We won’t say because we don’t want to compare we would still insist on using slates instead of using a pen and a book.

In conclusion, comparisons can be constructive or destructive. Constructive if it is used as a driving force for success, to measure success, to become a better person, to make positive influence on the society.

Destructive if it leads one to be covetous, desperate, break laws, become disrespectful and used as a weapon to ruin or dampen another’s mood or spirit.

Lets learn to decide the comparison technique we need to imbibe into our daily lives for a better future.