A lot of controversies surround seeking aid from people around us, ranging from people being too dependent ,impolite and arrogant to admit that they require people's intervention. How often do you seek people's intervention? Does seeking help make us seem weak and incompetent? Does seeking help limit our potentials on problem solving and critical thinking? Seeking help may seem like a way to learn from others and to others it may seem like showing the world our weaknesses.
Seeking help has become people's undoing and nemesis because they seek aid at the wrong time from the wrong people and too frequently. Rather than thinking, reflecting and strategising ways to solve a problem, some would rather give in to challenges and seek people's intervention to help them face their challenges. When a challenge comes up, they neither explore their potentials and apply critical thinking to analyse the situation nor strategize plan that will tackle the problem and prevent future occurrences.
Seeking help has built some of us, made us more productive and improved our skills. When faced with a challenge, it may destabilize our emotional balance, disrupt the sequence of achievement we have set as goals and we will need to evaluate our actions which leads us to learn from mistakes we made. Challenges make us realise the need to modify & change our plans and this helps to build our resilience, helps us explore our potentials, skills through critical thinking. Our emotional intelligence is boosted as we gain knowledge, ideas and reviews from other people which helps us understand and tolerate people more. It helps us gain diverse views that will provide solutions to our problems. It makes us try out new, modified methods of guidance to what we want to achieve.
Seeking help is not limited to physical assistance, emotional support or financial assistance, it extends to accepting people's strength,weaknesses and trying to merge all those unique traits into innovations to help humanity and promote peace.
Help ranges from kind words, physical assistance, justice from oppression, advocacy for the the less privileged, innovations, suggestions, moral counselling and more which will depend on our values or views about independence and self-actualization.
Realising that coexistence is key to human development and survival is the key to a more productive, peaceful and successful cohabitation of people. No one can exist alone without infusing the ideas of others into his life. The clothes, food, appliances and materials we use for our survival are as a result of other people's discovery. Modification of others ideas and views had lead to more innovations that have made life easier. We only deceive ourselves when we say we don't need any help because most options we have and resources we use are result of people's help to humanity.
Knowing when to cross the barriers of independence, dependence and interdependence are also key to our self-actualization and development. Identifying our true selves, setting goals, implementing plans strategies and evaluation the outcome of our actions will guide us on when to cross these barriers. Knowing our limitations and seeking ways to modify our ideas will help to broaden our perspective on things we are capable of achieving. Sharing how we truly feel and view life's concepts will make us realise the misconceptions we have, make us feel more appreciated and overcome our mutual insecurities since communication builds our social skills.
Realising that communication and interaction is the key to our survival will guide us. Periodic self-evaluation of our actions and the determinants of our happiness and success is a must if we are to balance the tripod of independence, interdependence and dependence. How would we learn if we don't solve problems and go through challenges by ourselves? How do learn if we don't receive guides, experience and knowledge from other people? Seeking and accepting help is after all a component of mental well-being.
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