EMOTION CONFIDANT

     There is nothing more disappointing than realising a shared memory we hold so dear to us has been heard by unpermitted third party or even the public . It hurts to realise that a person we trusted with our memories has disappointed us even if the memory may seem insignificant to us.
      The desire to have power over the information we are willing to share about ourselves is undeniable and acknowledged by most of us. No matter how indifferent we may act to people's opinion, we still desire that feeling of security about our lives and activities.
     The increasing rate of betrayal of trust with information we share is responsible for hostility people exhibit to strangers . The fear of associating with people who may eventually reveal thoughts, values and memories we cherish has gradually influenced most of our decision to keep to ourselves and we are so obdurate to realise that being open can be beneficial or dangerous.



     Keeping our thoughts, values and memories to ourselves can be beneficial since it gives us a sense of security especially with memories we wouldn't want a third party to know about. Being our own confidant can be beneficial because it gives us the luxury of time to see people's true intentions and feelings about us. Being our own confidant can be beneficial because it reduces the incidence of manipulations, fraud and blackmail since our sensitive information &memories will be best known to us.
     Blackmails, frauds, defamation of character, sabotages have resulted from information people know about us. When we share information and it falls into the wrong hands of people who don't share the same values as we do, or people who sek to tarnish our reputation, it releases the deepest and darkest of our emotions; rage, anger,unhappiness & disappointments that will require good support , encouragement and emotional strength for us to get over these feelings.
     Social withdrawal is not a solution to prevent leaked secrets. Social withdrawal will only gradually destabilise our emotional equilibrium because communication is after all an unobscurable part of our lives. Communication gives us that feeling of love, companionship we really desire so we need to express how we feel.
     Knowing the limit of what we should share is what we need. Whatever situation we find ourselves in, we should always take a moment to evaluate the significance of the emotions and actions we are involved in and the benefits we can gain from sharing our information because we are evidently diverse in values, beliefs and culture.
      Eminently, we need to communicate and involve in activities with other people if we are to develop and grow in emotion control, thinking, innovations, problem solving as these are important criteria for social development.