The blame game is no news to our daily life activities. Whenever we find ourselves in an unpleasant situation, we seek to find the person or thing that caused it. When things fail or don't go as we planned, we vehemently refuse to accept that it may be due to our actions, instead we someone's interference to it.
Linking blames can be beneficial if we can confront the person who interfered with our plans and explain why we feel they are responsible for it. Blames can be benefial if we have thoroughly analysed our disappointments & failures and we are only trying to identify the root cause of the disappointment so we can design a better plan.
Alas!!! people don't try to move on to a better plan after the disappointment. We usually seek to wallow in regrets and attribute our disappointments to a person or thing rather than strategising & engaging in a new plan.
Adaptation is after all a survival trait in us. When situations become unfavourable for us, we should always identify our own involvement in it and map out new plans that will address any form of interference we may face. The ability to adjust to various situations is what keeps us living and improve our survival skills.
What makes us despise being blamed is the fact that ;it gives us a sense of guilt and sometimes through our assessment, we realise that the the person involved fails to realise that he has a role to play in his disappointment and would rather accuse someone being an interference.
Let's turn our blames and resentment about situations into a motivation to do better and achieve more. Regular self and decision analysis will be necessary to a happier and guilt free life.
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