TEST TO JUDGE.

         Consistently, we find ourselves wanting to test the loyalty, love and support our loved ones have towards us. The "test" have become a sensitive topic that should be treated with caution.
         We believe that the only way to overcome our insecurity of trustworthiness of our loved ones is to plan a situation that will help us know the attitude and behaviour of our unsuspecting loved ones to the situation/scenario we have created.
         We have come to understand the true intentions of people around us by "testing them" and this would give us an insight on how to relate with them and gain understanding on their perception to an action.
         We have also witnessed broken friendship bonds, relationship ties have been severed when the response/ behaviour exhibited during our test is not acceptable to our values, beliefs and morals
     


  The big question is ;should emotional test be a method to clarify people's loyalty to us? This question will only lead to unending arguments on the perceived correct answer to give.
        Truthfully, nobody wants to be put into a state of uncertainty and distrust. We all desire to be trusted and respected by people even if we won't admit it. Human beings are prone to make mistakes of fall for deceptions depending on the situation we find ourselves as well as our current emotions and how it affects our choices .
        The fact that we are vulnerable to deceptions when it is convincing enough to fit into our values & beliefs is certain. Even those who create the "test" environment can't deny the fact that we despise being seen as gullible or shallow-minded.
       To know a person, all we need is to depend on the element of time because truth can never be trully hidden. When we think we can blur out the truth, the world is so linked that previous,present and future activities are connected. There is no need to go extreme to know the response of our people to the situation we create for them.
       The only true test we can offer to anyone, is to be yourself, treat people with kindness,love,loyalty, respect and sincerity regardless of the situation and they still exhibit attitude that are not acceptable, the only true punishment we can give is to keep being good to them.
         Let us not generate more disputes and conflicts with actions we may regret later. Be good and sincere to everyone in all situations even when they are not. Being good should not hinder us from being assertive and tell people how we trully feel in a polite manner so that we can achieve emotional balance.